"Here's How to Stop Suffering

From your Husband's

Emotional Abuse and

Have The Relationship

You've Always Wanted"

From: Nora Femenia, PhD

Author of "The Art of Positive Conflicts"

Fort Lauderdale, FL

Wednesday, October 05th

Dear Friend,

Recently I saw this couple, at the table near mine, so near I could hear his voice. Not that it was difficult, because the guy was raising his voice in such a way it was unavoidable to hear the nasty, mean words he was directing to the young woman besides him.

I watched her, with her wide open eyes, taking in his verbal abuse, becoming more and more scared of him, and then bowing her head in sheer embarrassment.

She knew that people around her were watching, and was totally overwhelmed by his criticism. His angry words were relentless! He kept saying cruel things in a very strong way, as if he was the owner of the universe with all the power to lash out at her.

While he got more and more excited barking at her, his face was reddening, his voice louder and louder and he began slapping the table. This was clearly spouse abuse! Just as I decided there was a need to intervene, he abruptly stood up and grabbed her arm; both disappeared from the place very fast.

I was really sad for her, because I have learned how to escape from that very scary emotional abuse situation; I now how how to feel secure and happy inside, no matter what…If I could have transferred a piece of my soul to her, by an invisible ray entering her heart, I would have done so!

Why? Because I know how painful it is to be put down and shown this kind of psychological abuse “treatment” by the same person you love so much. And I now know to build my own self-esteem and avoid completely being affected by this negative and controlling behavior, which was possibly destroying any trust and love existing between them.

The question is: What happened in my life before now, that changed my life? How did I do it, and build my self-confidence to this point?

If you would have asked me if this was even possible a few years ago, I would have said "No way." I used to think that I was almost worthless and that anyone in my circle of friends or family could use this kind of treatment with me. And I would have been ready with a good excuse! I would accept any negative comment or angry attack against me as if I deserved that treatment! As if I was responsible for unleashing his fury! Can you believe that?

It's now easier for me to identify this kind of behavior as soon as the first inkling of it appears, and immediately know what to do. I can choose to stop it just there, and I know what to say and what to do to stop an abusive spouse …in a very direct but nice way.

So how did I go from being totally submissive so that my husband would release his pent up anger on me or my children without respecting us, to the person I am now, being able to recognize, stop and transform this kind of emotional abuse?


I had not seen my sister in the last ten months...I was living in another city and she had moved with her new husband into a small town six hours away. We did call, but her calls were getting more and more distant. All this time, I had the certainty that both she and her husband were doing well together, so no big worry.

I went to her place, rang the bell and a long silence followed. There was her car out there, so what was wrong? I knocked at the door, and finally she opened the door. I stared in silence...who was this woman? And finally, she said: "Liz, you are here!"

This person was a shadow of my sister, a pale ghost in the frame of the door... I was so shocked that it took me several seconds to reach out and embrace her! She was sobbing, distraught and shaken, and I had to take her into the living room...what had happened to her?

I could see her better now, and she looked ten years older than her 28 years of age; her hair was dirty and her eyes sunken. She looked like she had been crying all morning! I plucked up the courage to say: "Please, Ann, tell me what's wrong?"

She told me: "I never wanted to tell you, because I'm so ashamed of myself! You were proud of me, but now I know that I'm such a stupid person!- I don't deserve anybody to take any interest in me! Please, can you go away and don't tell mother that you saw me?"

Ann was in such a sad situation that it took a while for me to understand that she was blaming herself for her situation!

What happened? "John is always telling me that I'm such a lousy, stupid woman that finally I realized that I'm a total failure! And he is right, I can't do anything in the proper way, and he is ready to leave me!"

This was NOT the sister that I knew! This woman was a pathetic wreck, and did not resemble the young, intelligent and resourceful younger sister that I knew! I was too surprised to stop from asking: "Where is John now?" Ann looked around, and in a whispering tone said: "He is gone to buy his beer, but will be back soon, why you don't leave now?"

That was the last thing I wanted to hear! "Please, Ann, tell me what happened to you in the months you have been married, will you?" I had to grab her hands and push her to look at me.

"He began making nasty jokes about me to his friends, they were laughing with him about how a lousy cook like me was going to poison all of them with my food...then, when I complained about their jokes, he got furious and began yelling at me! He said that I was separating him from his friends! From that day on, it has been a constant storm of screaming at me, or doing ironic and negative comments; nothing of what I do is right! He keeps making fun or saying humiliating things about me, whether other people are present or not. Why doesn't he realize that it hurts so much?"

"At the beginning I tried to cook better, clean, be ready to please him, and then he sometimes would be very nice to me. I need so much to be loved that I'm always expecting him to treat me with tender loving care, and when he gives me some crumbs of attention I keep going."

"And then, he gets angry again and I can't talk to him anymore. He blames me for everything that is wrong and I feel guilty all of the time. I'm so alone... What am I doing wrong?

It's been almost a week that he hasn't spoken to me; I've been crying my eyes out and wishing to die, so I can end this torture! It's not the kind of married life I ever imagined!"

NOW, I know my sister. I know that she is a capable, intelligent and resourceful woman who is definitively able of hold her ground, but what had happened here, that she was reduced to be a shadow of herself?

I was overwhelmed seeing the destruction of her previous happy self, replaced by this shaken, fearful shadow of herself.

Her husband had managed to completely destroy her self-esteem, using the cruelest tactics: humiliation, constant negative critique, giving her the cold shoulder and isolating her from human contact.

I'm not a professional, but at that time I was horrified at the change in her lovely person, how could he do so much damage?

And what could I do? I wasn't going to leave, with her in such a situation!

Thinking fast, I said to Ann: "Do you remember when we were children, that time when we got lost, and we were scared of not finding our way back home?"

She had a faint smile, and said "Of course, I do!...you told me to hold hands and look around, that we were going to be back safely in no time!"

"Well, is the same now, Ann...you need a bit of help to return to the strong person that you are, but there is a way...let me help you. Where are your wedding pictures?"

She went to a drawer, got the album, and handed it to me. "What do you need them for?"

I had only one wish: I wanted to show her the person she had been...the radiant, secure and beautiful Ann. She needed to recover herself! Slowly, I was selecting some of the pictures, and saying to her: "See this woman? How do you see her here?"

"Happy, secure of herself...looking at the future, and she looks very pretty"

"Well, she is still inside you, and she wants to be given the freedom to live her life with joy...You now need a bit of support getting to know what to do in order to be more assertive and defend yourself, and you will be able to improve this situation soon!"

She was still afraid, but her eyes were brighter and alive.

"Thanks for reminding me of who I am! Now, what can I do? I'm still afraid that he will leave me if I don't do what he wants!"

"You are still thinking like a prisoner, but let's do one thing at the time, shall we? Let's go now outside, find a nice place where we can have lunch and we will together plan how to recover your wonderful spirit...and if he leaves, don't you think he will be doing you a favor?"

Finally, I had her smiling! For a moment, I saw the young girl she was, always sweet and kind, and never prepared to hold her ground against hostile pressure! That was the issue! She needed to learn a lesson on how to assert herself and how to ask, or better, demand, what she needed in a relationship!!!

Now, the path was clear: I needed to remind Ann of the person she was inside; reinforce her resolve to get the respect she needed from John or else leave him, and as a lesson for the future, to learn the skills to defend herself against any bully, not only her husband!

When we were growing up, we never learned how to assert and defend ourselves. Nobody taught us how to protect ourselves! Being very sincere, I could even remember our dad making these same nasty critiques to our mother...and that was part of their "normal marriage." It's no wonder we dind't know how to respond in these kind of abusive situations!

But, Ann said, "how did you learn about emotional abuse and self-defense?"

"Incredible, but I have learned a lot." I told her- "I have been doing a lot of reading and found an e-book that is just about how to identify and react to all kinds of abuse...Because, Ann, you can have two responses when you are abused: be overwhelmed, victimized and sad, and suffer the whole impact; or you can remember that you have resources and use them."

One of the resources is your sense of injustice, and it gives you access to your anger; when you get angry, you stop being depressed and then you need to find a way to react! This ebook has given me permission to be angry at anybody launching emotional attacks on me, and so I found my own strength to react! It is reassuring to know I can always defend myself verbally from this kind of destructive behavior."

She looked at me and I saw a glimpse of my younger, beautiful sister. "You know," Ann said- "I needed you to remind me of the person I can be. Something has to change now and if I need to learn the skills to be more assertive, then what can I do...can you keep talking about the skills you learned from the book?"

Have You Ever Been The Target Of
Your Husband's Abuse?

Besides the shock of being in a very scary situation, you are so surprised! How is this happening to you? When you think that this is only a normal "married couple" fight, he is having this angry, furious temper tantrum against you! Between yelling, pushing you in a corner, saying nasty things and fixing his eyes on you to immobilize your movements….you are confronted with this angry person you never saw! And you were sure that this person was going always to be nice and considerate and patient, because he loved you?

What hurts the most is that he can say the most demeaning and hurtful things, when angry. He has to know that you are made to feel completely humiliated! Where is the person that promised to love you for ever? You'd never suspected him of being able to be so blind as to use those words with you!

One thing is sure: you can't answer with a nastier, even more aggressive response to get him to behave in a decent and caring way. You now deserve a peaceful, enriching relationship, where you feel supported and confirmed by your loved one….not forced to start a war!

I know that you yearn for an emotionally stable partner; in your daily fantasies, you see him behaving in a loving and respectful way...and then the memory of the last anger attack interrupts your day dreaming. It is then that you turn from sadness to anger and wish to be able to turn the table and confront his abusive behavior up front! You dream of having the inner strength to stop and reject any yelling and screaming by anyone!

The core of your sadness is realizing that you feel weak and vulnerable inside, with no defenses and your self-esteem very diminished. Each anger attack directed against you, even when totally irrational and cruelly misdirected, hurts you very much. The vision of his face reddened by anger, the sound of his voice screaming hurtful words at you, make you cringe….Even when he is not showing his anger in this way, he can also launch verbal attacks on you by being sarcastic, using ironic words and in general, consistently putting you down. He makes you want to disappear from the face of the earth!

If this reduced self-esteem of yours is due to the idea that you need to be patient and understanding with his yelling, we need to talk. First, we need to do away with some pre-conceived ideas about what the role of a woman is in a relationship…as if you had someone say to you when you were very young: " You need to be quiet, and be sweet and understanding of other people's needs" or "If you're not patient and accepting of everybody's attitude, then there's something wrong with you."

Well, I'm here to tell you that those ideas are wrong!

Your family, when growing up, taught you how to walk, how to speak, or how to drive a car. These are basic skills that you LEARNED when you needed them. You have also learned from your family this helpless attitude, this automatic acceptance of power attitudes used on women by men. Now you need to drop them and find other skills that are going to boost your self-esteem and make you stop accepting and begin to reject this emotional abuse.

In my own experience, anger attacks are a special kind of emotional abuse, which because it can erupt unexpectedly, takes you by surprise, taking away your capacity to react. Used systematically by a husband, it can reduce you to a nervous wreck, and pave the way for physical abuse!

As a reaction to my own personal story of emotional abuse, I went on a personal mission, and spent years thinking and learning about the good relationships, the ones I wanted so badly to have. I found wonderful books and philosophical works, but very little in how to apply those reflections into managing abuse in such a way that it would not only transform me, making me stronger and more self-assured, but would give the angry person some badly needed lessons to learn too.

The sad truth is that there is always a gap between the concepts you read and the emotional growth that needs to happen inside you….and if you don't grasp how to assimilate these concepts into your own self-esteem, they are useless. Finally, you could end up resigned to the diminished scared person that the abusive man wants as his companion.

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I've spent a good part of my life listening to stories about how abused people feel; I have also collected those stories where the sun of resilience shines through….wonderful stories where you can see the person rising up and developing new skills, and new trust on her own ideas and feelings, by finding ways to manage the controlling and abusive situations they found themselves in. And more, they also learned how to identify potentially abusive situations, and avoid them!

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